Who doesn’t want a comfortable life? It’s what the modern world ceaselessly works for. People get hooked on drugs and alcohol to numb their mental, emotional or physical pain. They work long hours to add to already sufficient savings funds. They file for divorce when marriage gets tough and/or when they feel like they’ve “fallen out of love” (as if love is only about romance, attraction, ease and sex). They seek out porn to please every slight desire. They end longtime friendships over misunderstandings.
What’s wrong with us? When did the human race become so pathetic? Maybe we’ve always been weak, but we cover it up with stories and songs about our bravery and strength.
When a culture evolves, some of the good aspects of the old culture are lost. Yes, some important new elements are gained as well, but we often forget about the gems that were lost in the shift. Here are some dwindling values from days long ago:
- Committed love
- Deeply rooted relationships
- Genuine faith
Life isn’t a sprint. It may be short, but the day-to-day is what trips people up. When you only live for adventure and newness and hype, you fail to live in the moment on the days when what used to be new and exciting is now a mundane reality.
Here’s a prime example of how the culture of comfort operates:
Think of a little girl who spent years dreaming up her princess-style wedding dress and a ten-tiered red velvet cake with cream cheese frosting. The details were perfected long before she met the man who would wait for her at the alter.
That girl grew up and met a guy she liked enough to include in her wedding plans. The magical day came and went. It was beautiful. There were flowers and tears. A blushing bride and a lively reception.
She woke up the next day as a wife, never again to be a bride. Years of dreaming and planning now just a memory. With the next chapter comes the unadorned, frill-less covenant made between two less-than-perfect human beings. Her life is committed to a man she may or may not have chosen based on upstanding character, faithfulness and strength.
For as long as they both shall live, she has committed to forgive him when he doesn’t do the dishes or take out the trash… for the thousandth time. When the romantic spark isn’t there and he’s getting on her nerves, she must choose to persevere in loving, cherishing and respecting him as her husband. The same goes for the man in relation to his wife.
Commitment to marriage is the perfect display of values lost in a culture of comfort. Taking the vows seriously requires both people to lay down their lives for one another. A life of comfort cares more about aesthetics and momentary happiness than unwavering commitment in the face of chaos and uncertainty.
When people seek comfort as their greatest good, they lose sight of the meaning behind their actions and relationships. Comfort is tested on an “I” basis, yet stable relationships depend on “we” and “us”.
When we value comfort above all else, everyone and everything in our lives take the backseat. And now we’re building cars with backseat ejection buttons. That means that at any second the driver can eliminate the passengers they deem too annoying or too disruptive of her momentary happiness.
Comfort kills genuine love, depth, commitment and endurance. Comfort beckons people to be selfish and discard relationships that require hard work and self-sacrifice. Comfort is the sweet-talking mistress who lures fools to her bed of destruction and death.
Is this too harsh? Does it make you uncomfortable? Good. That’s a start.
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